Many people believe that G-d created the universe and they worship Him for that and continuously celebrate that. They are acknowledging the power, the creativity and the connection they have to that G-d, whatever shape and form it might have.
If G-d is the creator of the world then parents are the creators of their children, not only in the physical sense by conception, but also in the emotional and mental sense by parenting those children for the first 18 years of their lives, by being their role models and by being their anchor in the sea of life.
Our parenting style, the way we interact with our children, our expectations and affection greatly shape our children’s brains mentally and physically, much more then we ever would like to admit. The tragedy is that while each parent has the best intentions in the world regarding his children’s mental state and future possibilities, many parents lack the tools, knowledge and strategies to translate those good intentions into healthy, respectful and rich relationships with their children.
The first step in adapting your parenting style to your noble and positive intentions as a parent will be by constantly being aware of the immense power you have over your child’s development. Remind yourself that you have the constructive power to raise your child to become a healthy, resourceful and hopeful person – yet you also posses the destructive power to raise her to be distrustful, resourceful and pessimistic. Wow, that seems like a huge responsibility… and it is one!
The second step will be to focus your attention on this important aspect of your life and ask your self the following questions:
1) What are three things that I like about my parenting style?
2) What are three things that I would like to improve in my parenting style?
3) What are the three top qualities I would like my child to have as a mature person?
Answering these questions will help you focus your attention on the right parenting style for your specific and unique family. The rest is easy, once you know what is it that you want you go and make it come true by reading, asking for help from your support system or by seeing a parenting specialist.